Religion vs. Relationship (where's the beef)

It is tough to know what to do as Christians. If we stick to the letter of the laws and commandments of the Bible then we risk turning into the pharisee types we understand that Jesus condemned. On the other hand if we merely seek after a relationship with Christ, we risk being so open minded about how we live our lives that God slowly fades into the background and we just do what we feel is right. Mark 10:17-31 is the story of the rich man asking Jesus how to get eternal life. Jesus replies telling him to sell everything he has, give it to the poor, and follow Him. Is this a command? Are we all suppose to do that? My parents have started serving meals to the needy on Christmas each year, along with countless other holiday time charities. They see it as a good Christian thing to do. Is this what God wants us to do? Are we all suppose to do that? Matthew 22:24-40 is when Jesus is asked what is the greatest commandment. Jesus said to love God with our heart, soul, and mind, and love your neighbor. Do we dissect each of these and understand how to love God in these ways, and love our neighbor? Are we all suppose to do that? This question I keep coming back to, "are we all suppose to do that", is a tough question. Where do we draw the line of what a Christian is required to do? Should there even be a line, and who should be drawing it? We have the faith vs works argument in Jame 2:14-26 where we get little help understanding. Rahab a prostitute is considered righteous, as well as when Abraham almost sacrificed his son was righteous. So we can't seem to find an exact line in the Bible. However, I don't want just anyone to grab a Bible, pick out a few verses they want to obey, and leave out the rest. Likewise, we should not take every verse of the Bible so literally that we turn into those Jewish leaders Jesus condemns. So where is the line? My answer is simple and it hasn't changed in recent years. However, I understand it more completely now. Yet it also is most likely still not complete. I think there should be a line Each person has their own line. Their line is based on where they are in their walk with God, and what God is putting on their heart to do. 1 Corinthians 3:2 is where Paul talks about giving the people milk doctrine because that is all they could handle. They couldn't handle the meat yet. But he also chastises them for not growing and being able to digest the meat. My piece of meat in this issue is that although it depends on where we are with our walk with God, there are still things that each Christian should do. If we allow ourselves to be led on what we feel is right, then we could fall into a lazy Christianity. But it we force ourselves to do some sort of basic Christian activities, not for boasting but for growing towards God, then we can grow from there. I've struggled over past years with my Bible reading. I thought I knew enough about the Bible that I can live a good Christian life without having to do that check-list religious activity. But I've discovered I was wrong, and that being in the Bible is something that if I let is slip from my day, then I am slipping farther from my relationship with God. I lost that hunger and thirst for righteousness. So there are some things that I believe every Christian should be doing. But I also believe that it is up to the Christian to realize that they want to grow in Christ, and find the ways in which God is calling them to be righteous. Find the meat of your relationship with God.